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If your mom or dad named you successor trustee, you do not have to do everything this week. Very little is legally urgent in the first few days, so take care of your family first. Then begin by looking after what your parent left: find the trust, order certified death certificates, keep the essential bills paid, and wait before distributing or signing anything. One of the first firm deadlines is the notice to beneficiaries and heirs, generally due within 60 days. If the family home is involved, the decisions about it start early, even though its Proposition 19 deadlines generally run one to three years.
Losing your mom or your dad is hard enough. Then comes the trust binder, and your name in it as successor trustee.
Maybe you have known for years. Maybe your parent mentioned it once at the kitchen table, and you said “of course” without thinking much about what it would mean. Either way, you are grieving and holding a legal responsibility at the same time, usually on top of your own work and your own family.
If you are like most of the sons and daughters we sit down with, two questions come first. What am I supposed to do? And what happens if I get it wrong? Often a quieter one follows: how do I do this and stay close to my brothers and sisters?
So let us say the most important thing first. Very little is legally urgent in the first few days. Plan the service. Be with your family. Real deadlines do follow, some of them within weeks, and you do not have to face them alone.
Your parent chose you because they trusted you. Carrying this out well is a way of honoring them, and of looking after the family they loved. Let’s walk through what the first 90 days ask of you, one step at a time.
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Your parent spent years looking after what is in this trust. When the trust calls for you to serve, that care passes to you. California law treats it as a fiduciary role. You have a duty to follow the trust’s instructions and to act in the beneficiaries’ interest. You have to treat the beneficiaries impartially, which includes your brothers and sisters even when you are a beneficiary too. And you have to keep trust property safe, keep it separate from your own, and keep the beneficiaries reasonably informed.
That can sound heavy in a week that is already heavy. Here is the good news: a trust administration has a beginning, a middle, and an end. If your parent’s trust was properly funded, the assets in it can generally be administered without probate court. Many California trust administrations take about eight to twelve months. Nothing requires you to have every answer today, and nothing requires you to do it alone.
What the role asks of you first is patience. Do not distribute money, transfer the home, promise anything to a brother or sister, or sign tax-sensitive documents yet. First understand your authority and the order the administration needs to follow. Holding still at the start is not delay. It is how you look after everyone your parent provided for.
You do not have to work this out alone. We have guided California families through trust administration since 2010, as part of the more than 3,000 families our firm has served. Talk with us before you distribute anything, retitle property, or sign transfer documents.
Think of the first month as looking after what your parent left behind, so that every later decision is made from solid ground. In the first days and weeks:
Just as important is what waits: distributions, retitling, sales, and promises about who gets what. Before any of those, confirm your authority and the tax and creditor picture. Your brothers and sisters may ask early what they will receive and when. The kind answer is that everything will be handled properly and in order. That answer looks after them too.
The notices exist so that everyone your parent cared about is treated openly and fairly. They also carry some of the first firm deadlines of the administration.
The notice to beneficiaries and heirs. California law generally requires the trustee to notify the beneficiaries and your parent’s heirs that the trust has become irrevocable. The notice is generally due within 60 days of the death. If the death left the trust without a trustee, the 60 days generally run from the day you begin serving.
Serving the notice generally starts a 120-day period in which the trust can be contested. Delivery of a copy of the trust terms can extend that period. The notice has rules for what it must say and when it must be given. It is best to work through those with an attorney. Serving it correctly helps protect you.
Notices that depend on your parent’s situation. If your parent received Medi-Cal, a notice to the Department of Health Care Services is generally due within 90 days of the death. If the trust holds real estate, a change in ownership statement is generally due to the county within 150 days of the death.
Everyone else who needs to know. That generally includes the Social Security Administration and, where they apply, Medicare, the Department of Veterans Affairs, pension administrators, banks, and life insurance companies.
Handled on time, these notices show your family that the administration is open, fair, and moving in order.
Next, let’s put together a complete picture of what your parent left, so your family can make informed decisions later. Here are your trustee tasks between day 30 and day 90:
Each of these steps deserves care, and so does their order. Several tax and property decisions in these months carry deadlines that can be hard to recover from once they pass.
You want to carry out your parent’s wishes and stay close to your brothers and sisters. You are probably a beneficiary yourself, and the law asks you to deal impartially with every beneficiary. A few habits make that fairness visible to your family:
If one of you hopes to keep the family home, raise it early. How the home is distributed can affect its property taxes, as the section on Proposition 19 explains.
Your parent trusted you with all of their children. Doing this in the open is how you honor that. If you are unsure how to handle a distribution or a decision that benefits you, talk with us before acting. If a disagreement ever needs a courtroom, we will help you find the right attorney for that.
Each of these five trustee mistakes can usually be prevented. Preventing them looks after your family’s money and its peace:
A steady process helps keep these from happening to your family. For how an administration runs from start to finish, see our guide to trust administration in California.
The house you grew up in is often the most valuable thing the trust holds, and the one your family feels most. Its property tax deadlines start at the death and run well past the first 90 days, so the decisions about the home start early.
If one of you keeps your parent’s home as a primary residence, Proposition 19 generally requires moving in within one year of your parent’s death. The homeowners’ exemption generally must be filed within that same year. The parent-child exclusion claim generally must be filed within three years, or before the home is transferred to a third party, whichever comes first. A late claim may still be granted, but it generally applies going forward rather than back to the date of death.
How the home reaches that child matters too. A buyout between brothers and sisters after the home is distributed can be reassessed. So do not move money or sign anything involving the home until this analysis is done. If keeping the home in the family is part of the plan, reviewing Proposition 19 before any deed, buyout, or distribution can preserve options that may later narrow.
If you are like most trustees who work with us, you did not go looking for a legal project. California does not require you, as trustee, to hire an attorney. You are a son or a daughter who wants to do right by your family and handle it properly. You would rather carry your family than carry the process.
That is the process we guide you through. Our trust administration team coordinates the notices, valuations, tax questions, and beneficiary communication in the right order, so you are not tracking the deadlines and paperwork alone. We handle trust administration for a flat fee, agreed in writing before the work begins. In many administrations the trust pays the appropriate professional fees, not the trustee personally.
Getting guidance early is one of the choices that helps shield you from personal liability. It also lets you show up for your family as a son or a daughter first, and a trustee second.
Start with these three steps this week:
Next, review the trust’s terms and the deadlines that apply before deciding which steps can wait. For the bigger picture around the trust, see our guide to what happens when a loved one dies in California.
You do not have to carry this by yourself. We will help you understand where the administration stands, which deadlines apply, and what does not need to be rushed. Talk with us when you are ready for help, or call (949) 718-0420.
Laura Meier, Esq., Founder, Meier Law Firm · Newport Beach, California · Last reviewed October 2026
The law behind this guide: California Probate Code sections 215, 8200, 15681, 16061.7, 16061.8 and 19202, and Revenue and Taxation Code sections 63.2 and 480.
A successor trustee is the person a trust names to take over when the original trustee dies or can no longer serve. As successor trustee, you carry out the trust. That generally means securing and inventorying the trust's assets, giving required notices, paying valid debts and taxes, keeping beneficiaries informed, and distributing what remains the way the trust directs. California law treats it as a fiduciary role, and your duties to the beneficiaries are enforceable. Many administrations move through these steps over about eight to twelve months.
The notice to beneficiaries and heirs is generally due within 60 days of the death. If the death left the trust without a trustee, the 60 days generally start when the new trustee begins serving. Serving the notice generally starts a 120-day period in which the trust can be contested. That period can run longer, depending on when a copy of the trust terms is delivered. We generally handle the notice in the first weeks of an administration.
Generally yes. If you breach your duties as trustee, even unintentionally, you can be personally responsible to the beneficiaries for the loss. A court may excuse a trustee who acted reasonably and in good faith. Common pressure points include distributing assets before taxes and valid claims are resolved, and missing required notices. That is why it helps to have guidance early, and to move in the right order rather than quickly.
In the first weeks, avoid distributing money, retitling or selling property, transferring the home, promising assets to beneficiaries, and signing tax-sensitive documents. Wait until you understand your authority and the order the administration needs to follow. Securing the property, keeping essential bills paid, and keeping a simple record of what you do are the right early steps. Understanding the trust's terms and the deadlines comes before any irreversible decision.
Generally yes. During life, a revocable trust usually reports under the Social Security number of the person who created it. After that person's death, a trust that continues generally must get its own taxpayer identification number. It also needs its own bank account to receive income and pay expenses. The trust may need to file its own income tax return as well. Getting the tax ID early lets the administration open accounts and track income correctly from the start.
It depends on the trust. If the trust sets the trustee's compensation, that generally controls. If the trust says nothing, California law entitles the trustee to reasonable compensation under the circumstances. When you are also a beneficiary, tell the other beneficiaries before you are paid and keep a record of your time. Many sons and daughters who serve choose not to take a fee.
Yes, and it is common when a parent names a son or daughter. Being both does not change your duties. You still have to follow the trust's terms and deal impartially with every beneficiary, including your brothers and sisters. Take extra care with anything that benefits you, such as living in the home, buying it, or being paid. Review those with counsel and tell the other beneficiaries before they happen.
No. The trustee chooses who advises the administration, so you are not required to use the attorney who drafted the trust. Families come to us regularly with trusts drafted elsewhere, including trusts from firms that have closed or attorneys who have since retired. We will read what you have and tell you plainly what the administration requires.
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